“If I had more time, I’d have more fun,” we tell ourselves. Or, “If I had more time, I’d knit/paint/write a novel/[fill in the blank].”
Time is an equal opportunity provider. Every one of us, regardless of age, sex, race, or religion, has the same 24 hours per day. How we use those hours determines our success.
On one hand, we know that working long, hard hours is a characteristic of most successful people. On the other hand, we understand that working that way gives us little pleasure and less time to devote to family, friendship, intellectual stimulation, etc.
“Workaholism is an addiction,” Julia Cameron says in The Artist’s Way, “and like all addictions, it blocks creative energy”.
Cameron’s concern in the book is to find time for creative writing. But her advice is useful for anyone who’s fighting his or her workaholic streak.
You can be successful in business without sacrificing personal relationships. You can make money and create art, too.
You can accomplish your major goals in all of life’s four most important dimensions:
Your health-building goals
Your wealth-building goals
Your social responsibilities
Your personal aspirations.
To do so, you’ve got to choose a productivity plan that recognises the following:
Achieving any important goal takes time.
At any specific period of time in your life, you must establish priorities and give primary attention to your top goals.
Many of the problems prioritising may cause can be limited by respectful scheduling and thoughtful communication.
As opportunities change, so must your objectives.
You must also recognise that the way you work right now may be working against you.
A workaholic pattern might help you accomplish your primary goal, but it will usually leave your other goals in a shattered heap.
Begin, today, with this self-administered evaluation from Julia Cameron to help you figure out if you have workaholic habits.
Answer “seldom,” “often,” or “never” to the following:
I work outside of office hours.
I cancel dates with loved ones to do more work.
I postpone outings until the deadline is over.
I take work with me on holidays.
I take work with me on weekends.
I take holidays.
My intimates complain that I always work.
I try to do two things at once.
I allow myself free time between projects.
I allow myself to achieve closure on tasks.
I procrastinate in finishing up the last loose ends.
I set out to do one job, and start on three more at the same time.
I work in the evenings during family time.
I allow calls to interrupt — and lengthen — my workday.
I prioritise my day to include an hour of creative work/play.
I place my creative dreams before my work.
I fall in with others’ plans and fill my free time with their agendas.
I allow myself downtime to do nothing.
I use the word “deadline” to describe and rationalise my workload.
I go everywhere, even to dinner, with a notebook or my work numbers.
“There is a difference between zestful work toward a cherished goal and workaholism,” says Cameron.
“That difference lies less in the hours than it does in the emotional quality of the hours spent. There is a treadmill quality to workaholism. We depend on our addiction, and we resent it. For a workaholic, work is synonymous with worth, and so we are hesitant to jettison any part of it.”
Your answers to Julia Cameron’s self-evaluation questions will give you a quick sense of whether you have a problem with workaholism.
But don’t just test yourself.
Do what I did. Ask a few members of your family, or a few friends, to answer those questions for you.
You may be surprised by what you find out.
It can be hard to make time for your personal life when you’re trying to prove to your boss you deserve a raise… when you’re busy building your business… or when you just plain love what you do.
But don’t work so hard or so long that you neglect your family and friends. If you do that, you will eventually regret it.
Here’s how I will be keeping myself from falling into that trap from now on:
I won’t take work home at night. I put in my time at the office, and then I come home… without my laptop and papers.
I won’t take work home on weekends. If I want to put in a few extra hours on Saturday, I will clear it in advance. But, again, I won’t pull out the computer or papers in front of people. It sends the wrong message.
Away from work, I will try my best to stay “in the present”. For me, this is the hardest lesson to learn because my mind is always jumping from one topic (the story someone is telling me) to another (something related that happened). When I feel myself drifting — and it happens frequently — I will pull myself back.
When I follow these rules, I am twice as happy — at work and at home.
I recommend you do the same.